In one way or another we have all experienced hurt, abandonment and betrayal. In my experience, these are things that we feel or experiences that we undergo where we allow things and people into our lives that we know are not healthy for us to entertain. Whether it is that one person that brings out the absolute worst in you, the bad habit that you have tried to kick to the curb have not managed to do or that one thing in your life holding you to the things that puts out your spiritual fire. Truth be told, often, we are drawn to exactly these things, the things we know bears us no benefit in the long run.
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Truth be told, healing is best when it comes from the healer. Pray for resolution, pray for clarity, pray for guidance, pray that the things of the past will serve as valuable lessons moving forward. Pray for healing in your own life from the scars that have been left behind by the transpired events. Ask God for a forgiving heart and pray for the releasing power of absolute forgiveness. Exercise forgiveness. When your heart starts longing for the things that are unwelcome to you, pray in those moments that you may feel God’s presence. Pray that His presence will overcome you and that the longing will fade away. Whatever or whoever it is that you must let go of, pray for God’s blessing over it.
Pray to God that He will lead you closer to finding your home. The place where you are wanted and needed. The place where your character will not be affected by the circumstances, but your character will affect the circumstances. Pray that your character will be strong enough in Christ to become the home others search for in His honor.
A healthy mind is rooted in a healthy body. Whether you go running, work in a session of yoga or subscribe to a hip-hop dance class (in this moment, it might be better to stay indoors for this one and it is great fun to do with your kids). It is known that exercise increases the dopamine levels in your blood. This causes you to be happier. As an added bonus, it acts as a stress reliever and helps relax your tensed up shoulder muscles.
Meditate and contemplate. I personally practice a method of meditation called mindfulness. Through this method, you sit in an upright posture, and acknowledge all your senses. Close your eyes and take a deep breath, feel the air hit your throat, feel the air fill up your lungs, feel your lungs expanding at the inhale and contracting at the exhale. Wiggle your toes, become aware of what it feels like when they brush against one another. Feel the surface beneath them. Embrace the touch. Take careful note of the scents filling the air, the aroma of the freshly made black coffee on your desk or the buttery smells of the popcorn you just made for yourself as a snack. Mindfulness is a powerful form of meditation, as it allows you to be fully aware of your surroundings, it places you in the moment and allows you to enjoy the moment you are in.
Plan to be busy
This is something that has always helped me personally a lot with dealing with things in my life. I plan to be busy. Now don’t smother the feelings, deal with them, but remember that life goes on and it does not help to dwell on the things that are toxic in your life once you have identified what they are. So, plan to be busy. If you know that a certain time was allocated to spending with a particular person or thing, plan to be busy in that time with something fun and eventful that will distract your train of thought, whether its joining a running club, investing the time into writing or even sewing. Do something completely bizarre and totally unrelated.
In the guidance of this verse. Embrace (not physically, until COVID-19 has been taken off of high alert status, but emotionally) people who welcome you into their lives, whether its your new found friends at the running club or at church. Place yourself in social situations that harnesses positivity and enlightened thinking. Surround yourself with people who care about your being and leaves you feeling rejuvenated instead of feeling anxious. Surround yourself with things that provides you with comfort, not escape. Escape is not dealing with issues but allowing them to define your character.
It is not always easy to let go, whether it is letting go of a habit, a person, a feeling, a situation or a disappointment. However, if we allow ourselves to be guided by the Lord and trust that His will for our lives is far better than what we had in those things, we will be truly liberated.
What other manners of letting go have you applied in your life? Do you have any resources (people or things) that has helped you get through the struggles of letting something go? Share your thoughts in the comment section below.
Our Father that is in Heaven. Today I pray for the person reading this message. Lord, for I know, that this person has been destined to be in exactly this place. Father God, whatever this person faces, that he or she will be uplifted and be encouraged by Your power and Grace. Lord, that you may settle their unease and that they may experience your peace.
In the name of Jesus Christ.